Over the last month or two, I have been
glowing with joy over my life in my village in Butha Buthe.
Recently, I spent a wonderful week at PST [Pre-Service Training] for
the incoming Healthy Youth volunteers. During a session on volunteer
mental health and resiliency, I confessed I rarely have bad days.
I returned home from PST on Monday,
exhausted from travel and a few late nights chatting with various
volunteers I connected with during my travels. Although I desperately
wanted to be alone for a bit, I allowed my oldest brother to visit
for the two hours I had before my counterpart came for a meeting. I
had not seen him since my site visit in July, as he has been trying
to work in South Africa.
After my meeting with my counterpart, I
noticed the local “free-range” ass had eaten most of my garden,
leaving behind only a few carrots (though he'd dined on the greens),
a tomato plant, and my precious spaghetti squash that had just
reached reproductive maturity. I was a little bummed, but because the
squash was intact—we don't have spaghetti squash in Lesotho, these
seeds came from a care package—it did not matter too much.
That night, while my brothers were
visiting, there was a rustling in the “kitchen” corner of my hut.
Abuti Thabo jumped up to investigate and announced I had a rat. I did
not believe him until I saw the holes it had gnawed in a bag of
sorghum. Apparently, the rat had moved in during my absence.
Somehow more skittish than usual, I
pulled down the mosquito net for the first time in months, carefully
tucking into my mattress. I did not want to cuddle with my new
roomie! Despite my net fortress, I did not sleep well as he partied
late into the night.
Tuesday morning, as I ate my breakfast,
my new roommate made a dash from the kitchen corner to the wardrobe
corner, giving my visual confirmation of his impressive size,
species, and speed.
Just before I left for work, I walked
into the backyard, stopping short. Instead of tall weeds and my tiny
garden, there was a herd of cattle enjoying a feast. My 5-6 foot long
spaghetti squash was gone! I talked two cows out of my path as I
stomped to my latrine. When I came out, a huge heifer was blocking
the only way back to the house and was uninterested in moving. The
molisana (mow-dee-sauna or herdboy) was paying no attention.
Culturally, women in Lesotho are not supposed to walk through the
middle of a herd and usually molisana are quick to move cows that are
blocking the path. Fighting tears, I prodded the unwilling bovine out
of my way.
I was so devastated by the loss of my
spaghetti squash that I could not even fake being my usual positive
self. I sadly told my visiting oldest brother that the cows had
finished off my garden, knowing that he had asked the to
have the cows clear the yard. He, of course, apologized and tried to
cheer me up with promises of a new plot and the long awaited fence to
keep the ass and other animals out of the yard. Despite his
apologies, I was still bereft, pointing out that it is winter and too
late to plant more squash. Plus, I noted, we cannot buy spaghetti
squash here so I now cannot test harvesting a squash and planting the
seeds to share with villagers in my two years here.
molisana
As I finished gathering what I needed
for work, he came to my door to apologize again. I wanted so badly to
tell him it was fine and to give him a smile to reassure him, but I
was incapable of it. I reassured him that I understood and was not
actually upset with him, but that I was still upset.
Walking the 25 minutes to work, I
struggled to hold back tears and wondered repeatedly what I am doing
here. At the same time, the rational part of me questioned how a
squash plant could affect me so much that it was temporarily erasing
all the joy I usually feel for all the aspects of my life here.
When I arrived at work, one of the
women gave me dried sugar beans from her garden, but mostly the ten
women present gave me space as they could tell I was not my usual
cheerful self. While we waited for more members of the organization
to arrive, I tried to perk up. I knocked out nearly a dozen phone
calls; scheduling a variety of important meetings over the next two
weeks.
Eventually, we started our meeting but
quickly rescheduled it for the next week as many critical individuals
were missing. As we prepared to depart, I had my counterpart ask
everyone how to get rid of my new roommate. One woman offered me
poison and we began the slow paced walk to her home. On our way, we
connected with another woman who said she and my supervisor would
deliver some later so I did not have to travel so far.
Thus, my counterpart and I continued
towards my home. Before we parted, I shared what had happened and she
mentioned that the women had asked her if I was okay. I assured her
that I would be fine and back to smiling in no time. When I finally
got home, the tears I had held off for three hours overwhelmed me.
For the second time since arriving in Lesotho nearly a year ago, I
locked myself in my home for ten minutes of sobbing while saying lies
like “I don't want to do this anymore.”
Then, I was mostly better. I started
cleaning and working. I made a few more phone calls and had a great
conversation with the Country Director about the GLOW camp I am
working on.
In reality, despite my out of character
and dramatically out of proportion reaction to the loss of my
potential squash, it was one of the most efficient and productive
days in recent months. I literally connected with every person I
needed to and was able to check off over twenty items on my “to-do”
list.
A homemade rap trap baited with a seed. |
The misery I felt does bring me back to
the topic of volunteer mental health and resiliency. How is it that
something as unimportant in the scope of my service, my life, and the
world impact my entire day and my interactions so greatly? Obviously,
exhaustion played a role as did the rat and ass interactions in the
preceding sixteen hours. But how can one or even three negative
experiences overshadow dozens of positive ones so profoundly?
I can look at the empty garden
without choking up now. And Tuesday night I slept through the sounds
my rat roommate made. Wednesday night my brothers caught the rat with
a trap one of their friend's made. I am sure in a week or so I will
laugh at the tears I shed over a plant.
And, I now know that the Sesotho
word for poison is the same as medicine: moriana (mow-ree-ana). You
can think about that the next time you sing “a spoonful of sugar
helps the moriana go down.”
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